Personal Integrity - Honesty with yourself

If I asked you to think of some of the things you’ve been committed to doing for other people (could be your boss, friends, family, church, etc) you could probably call to mind a number of things. Now think of a few things you’ve said you would do to improve yourself or your future (read more, exercise, pray more, more recreation, etc). Now ask yourself…’are my commitments to other people more trustworthy than my commitments to myself?’

I’ve deduced that most people find it easier to commit to other people and harder to commit to themselves. If you find it hard to stay motivated or you struggle with self discipline you probably need to closely inspect your personal integrity. The dictionary defines integrity as “the quality or state of being complete or undivided”. That means your words, thoughts and actions match up. In our daily lives it’s rare that we break our commitment to others, but when it comes to our own personal lives we often treat ourselves as ‘second rate’ citizens. The problem with this is that the more we break our commitments to ourselves, the less honest we appear to be to ourselves, and inevitably it erodes our psyche, wearing away at our confidence and lowering our self esteem. After a while we feel like ‘I can’t be bothered!!’ We actually begin to create a failure conscience mentality as our subconscious mind struggles to find records of previous victories to spur us on.

In this life we need our integrity – and sometimes we have to fight for it! To give our best we need to be true to ourselves. Billy Graham said, “Integrity is the glue that holds our way of life together. We must constantly strive to keep our integrity intact. When wealth is lost, nothing is lost; when health is lost, something is lost; when character is lost, all is lost.”

STOP for a minute and examine yourself. Your doorway to the next dimension of your life might be as simple as you taking yourself seriously. And if you want to know the truth, the secret of how to love, bless, influence and help the world begins with you loving yourself. In fact Jesus said that after loving God the second greatest commandment is You shall love your neighbour as yourself.Mark 12:31. So how can you love your neighbour if you don’t love yourself? And how can you love yourself if you’re not honest with yourself?

Let me put it this way…You are an amazing human being! You are like gold hidden in a mine waiting to be found. Within you there are miracles you haven’t even begun to understand or tap into. And guess what…there is a switch waiting to be flicked on, but YOU have to turn it on. Start by being true to yourself. Become the kind of person that you yourself can admire and respect. Start with small disciplines in your life and then expand on them. God’s opinion of you is high, I mean real high but ignorance, laziness and self deception are killing many of us. You must command and order the direction of your life. Reason with God. Reason with yourself. Take some time and honestly question yourself. ‘Are there areas in my life I’ve really been neglecting?’ ‘Are there minors that should be majors?’ If so start a plan of action. If you continue the way you are, will you be happy next year, in 5 years or indeed 20 years?

Personal integrity is a process that has a profound effect over time. Sometimes it can be a hard pill to swallow - but it’s nice when it’s digested!

God bless and protect
Chidi

www.thetotalman.com

Quote of the week:
“He who walks with integrity walks securely.”
King Solomon – Proverbs 10:9


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